Aunt Jasmine actually posted this video clip on her wall someday ago. I noticed it, but I did not really open the video and play it, as I saw it is a dharma talk, and I do not have time to look at it. It is almost an hour clip.
During last Friday dinner at the Forum Ah Yatt Abalone Restaurant, she asked me to watch it, because there is something more than the gay marriage that the monk is talking.
“ In a marriage, you should never think as yourself; in a marriage, you must not think as your partner; in a marriage you just think of us. And, it is not about me – the selfishness; It is not about sacrifice in myself to my partner; In a marriage, it is about losing yourself to the relationship, losing yourself in renouncing me, to us.”
“ It is not about trusting yourself, is not about trusting your partner, is trusting the relationship, the us part of thing. What happened is the us-ness, and the us-ness is the spiritual thing. None selfness. That is why a marriage is a spiritual thing.”
It is the marriage all about, in the eyes of Buddhism. Ajahn Brahm talks really does open my eyes to the mistake that I done. The us-ness, which probably previously I did not feel it or do it or realize it, that is why probably sometimes he felt so fed up on me, especially when doing the household chores?
I do not know…When I think deeply, it is not just me only who do it, how about him? He was and always is having an affair non-stop, right? That does not matter now.
I just noticed it now, that this clip was published on 21 March 2012. It was the day which I received the divorce letter from him. Everything happened for a reason, am I right? It is just the matter of time?
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