November 16, 2024
Giving Others Permission
Dear Elder Yu,
My instructor surprised me every week by sharing something that gave me some thought. He was impressed that he should share his thoughts with us, the BYU-Idaho class family.
My instructor was talking to his mother a while ago, and he was asking her about a family they are close to who some time ago, had distanced themselves from the Gospel. He asked if his mom had ever heard why that had happened.
His mother said, that there had been some instances in which their family was treated poorly by members of their ward and had responded to that by leaving the Church entirely. At that point, my instructor looked at his mother, smiled, and said, “Well we have seen worse, haven’t we?”. His mother knowingly smiled back and said, “Yes, we have.”
My instructor told us that his family had seen some noteworthy transgressions by local leadership in their stake while I was growing up. But he and others in his family did not have their testimonies shaken by them. The reason for that is because as for him, he is a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints.
He shared with us his testimony that he had strong communication with Heavenly Father (through the Holy Ghost) who has told me that this is the right path. It would be illogical for him to permit another flawed mortal human to stand between him and that divine communication.
In contrast, his mother then told him about a recent experience with another friend close to the family. This good woman had recently been through a rather painful divorce. A short time after the divorce was finalized, she learned that a decision was made within the Church in favor of her ex-husband.
This was a decision that she did not agree with and one which had to have been made by a Church leader. She was devastated. She reports that when Sunday morning came around, she was so upset that she wanted very badly to just stay home.
But then she realized that she did not give permission to the Church leadership to stand between her and the very clear message from God that she needed to be a part of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. She went that Sunday and has been every week since.
My instructor has thought up a list (certainly not comprehensive) of flawed, mortal human beings that he personally will not give permission to stand between him and the testimony that has resulted from communication with loving Heavenly Father:
- Members of his ward who are kind and loving.
- Members of his ward who are cruel and hypocritical.
- People who make an industry out of writings being critical of the Gospel
- Close friends who do and also those who do not share the Faith.
- Church leadership who advocate for political views that happen to agree with.
- Church leadership who advocate for political views that happen to not agree with.
- Figures from Mormon History who he considers heroes.
- Figures from Mormon History who he felt were inspired by God but who also made decisions that he did not understand and who may have made mistakes.
- Close members of his family (Note: He was blessed to be surrounded by family who both support and strengthen his faith, but he understands that many do not have such a situation).
What I learned from my instructor’s testimony is that, if we do not allow others to stand in the way of our testimonies, our communications with God will be stronger and more pure.
My instructor shared that the most devastating piece of news in Church history also included what he considered to be the most hopeful phrases he had ever heard:
Willard Richards had to send a letter to Nauvoo with the horrible news that Joseph and Hyrum Smith had been martyred at Carthage. And yet the letter ended with the following 7 words: “Be still, and know that God reigns.”
I think this is the thing that God wants me to learn now – trust in Him.
Love,
Mommy